5 Steps to Learning To Love Yourself in Order to Heal

I have surmised that there are 5 Steps to Learning To Love Yourself in Order to Heal,but there is something that comes even before that, and that is awareness. Having the awareness that there is something missing in your life, that there is something not quite right, or something painful that needs healing. I forget who’s famous quote this is, but it is a prevalent saying amongst us holistic counselors,”You cannot confront what you are not aware of.” which makes perfect sense, right?

This is a universal truth. How are you going to fix something that you don’t even know needs fixin’, that you don’t even know is broken so having that awareness that you are out of alignment is what will bring you to the well of self discovery. Having that awareness is essential to starting on the path to healing and having a healthier happier existence. Knowing that you no longer want to be “here” anymore whatever “here” means to you, is vital.

The First Step: Setting Your Intention. The definition of intention is having a strong purpose or aim accompanied by a determination to produce a desired result. You must set in motion a go getter attitude, an internal drive that propels you toward fulfilling your dreams, your heart’s desire. If you are reading this article it is likely that your true heart’s desire is to learn to accept and love yourself. Intention moves the thought of having the life you want from just wishing it to making it real.

Step Two: Self Discovery Through Journaling. A journal is not just a book to keep a bland record of our lives, it’s also a tool for self-evaluation and self-improvement. We get a chance to examine our lives as we come to know ourselves through our journal entries. Even if you take your journal and go back and look at it a few days later, you learn things about yourself you didn’t know at the time. You begin to understand things about yourself, you gain further awareness about you.

Writing down your thoughts and feelings is a therapeutic activity. Putting pen to paper are tools for your creative expression, writing down your joys and sorrows alike is extremely healing. Journaling can be a mindful process which helps you get in touch with your deepest yearnings, helps you find resolve for problems, and deal with personal issues. Whatever type of painful emotion you are experiencing (grief, sadness, fear, isolation, etc.) expressing yourself in writing can help ease your discomfort. Getting words down on paper can help clear your head of thoughts and ideas that are creating this mental swirl of confusion.

So Each day, or at least a couple times a week intend to just start writing. This process is meant to allow a stream-of-consciousness to pour out of you. It doesn’t matter what words or phrases you write down. It doesn’t matter if your sentence structure or grammar is good or poor don’t worry about misspellings. It doesn’t matter this daily exercise is to help clear your brain of mindless clutter and discharge any emotional baggage connected to useless or negative thoughts. It’s a way to help release our anger, our worries, our criticisms, and to embrace our hopes and dreams. Those very things that block our creative juices from flowing need an outlet. Writing can be used as a venting tool to get rid of negative thinking.

Step Three: The Importance of Self Help Books.  Author Charles Jones said it best “You are the same today that you are going to be five years from now except for two things: the people with whom you associate and the books you read.” You might want to write that one down. Think of yourself five years from now even just one year from today. If you want yourself to be even brighter, wiser, and more successful than they you are today, you’ll want to strongly consider the information that you are allowing yourself to be exposed to. Reading personal development books encourage and inspire you to move ever forward and ahead towards your goal of loving yourself. The books you read directly affect the growth that will or will not take place between the you today and the you tomorrow. So it is is very important to go shop for these treasures and not view them as just some good entertainment but as a contributing force to your higher education and lifelong well being.

Step Four: Getting Out In Nature. The benefits of this are many but how does it help you have more self love? Well it helps you to de stress and feel relaxed which improves your overall sense of well being. It also assists with sensory awareness and mindfulness which makes it easier for us to be able to go even deeper within ourselves. Being in nature offers you an opportunity to be playful, to tap into your inner child that longs to play. I get a sense of fascination when I hug a tree or baby talk to a squirrel. So get yourselves out there at least once a week for a nice stroll amongst the elements.

And Step Five: Seeking Counsel. Louise Hay states that “One Can Not Change a Problem From The Same Mindset It Was Created” which is true how can you fix a situation if you are viewing it from the same angle, with the same perception you had when you ignited it. At times our usual ways of handling problems aren’t working so we feel stuck! Counseling provides a safe space where people can be themselves and freely discuss their pain. Helps them to understand their problems to help create different strategies in approaching their dilemma. Counselors help people to see different sides of their problems so that their situation may be improved.

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In the spirit of giving, during this Holiday Season, I would like to offer my December 20th event at a discounted rate of 50% off. I wish to make it feasible so that many may gather together to take in the wisdom of Louise Hay.

We will unite at 6pm to network (bring business cards if you have them), enjoy each others company, have some dinner with presentation beginning at 6:30p. The 1.5hr viewing will start at 7p. There will be time for discussion at end of screening.

This entertaining and inspirational movie based on the best-selling book of the same name is hosted by author and teacher Louise L. Hay. This film gives penetrating insights into Louise’s fascinating personal story and shows how her views on self-esteem, abundance, and the metaphysical causes behind physical ailments were developed. It also reveals how she applies these concepts to her own emotional, spiritual, and professional life.

A number of luminaries in the fields of self-help, philosophy, health, spirituality and New Thought join Louise, giving their take on success happiness and the myriad ways in which people can heal their own lives. And there are also gripping firsthand accounts from others who have been positively affected by Louise’s work.

Louise L. Hay is a metaphysical lecturer and teacher and the best-selling author of numerous books, as well as the bimonthly Louise Hay Newsletter. For more than 25 years, she has assisted millions of people in discovering and using the full potential of their own creative powers for personal growth and self-healing.

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As a counselor and healer, it is imperative that I take good care of myself on all levels. Being human though, I am not always so vigilant about staying the course. This past summer was one of those times I lost my way a bit. I embarked on making a move, a physical move from my amazingly blissful studio located in the wonderful spiritual community called Ananda to return to my fiance’s home thirty five minutes north of there. I made the assumption that the change of environment would not impact me, well not that much at least. To my naive surprise, quite the opposite occurred and I immediately felt the effect.

Here I was leaving behind my sacred home I had created, had nurtured myself in for eight years. Though I was extremely pleased to be back living full time with my partner, I was not at all happy realizing that my surroundings were far from what I was accustomed to, especially aesthetically. I no longer saw my luscious lavender walls, my sheer blue curtains with their beautifully beaded trim. I yearned for my many multi faceted crystals lovingly placed along the window sills that sparkled against the embroidered draping hanging from the ceiling cocooning my bed. Appreciative as I was to be united with my partner living in a very safe, strong home which is a rather great representation of his character in the flesh I was all too aware that the warmth of the feminine, of the divine was totally lacking. I was missing my sacred space, a place I could call my own where I would once again be free to play my chakra cd’s and align myself openly with my voice chanting in gratitude.

Alas, I found myself feeding too much into all the have nots as opposed to focusing on the plenty that was all around me. S-T-U-C-K became “the way” for me these past few months. I had been serving my ego rather than serving our Creator. I had become self serving. Not in the sense that I was selfishly seeking material or physical gratification, I was simply fixated on complaining much too much, taking my gaze off of what was good and righteous. I had conveniently placed myself into the victim trap and swallowed the key. I allowed myself to be frustrated, to blame, to pity and carry that pot everywhere I went. I alone seared density into my mindset. It took a rather dramatic incident occurring to swiftly reawaken me, to put everything back into perspective.

In my despair, the remembrance came flooding back in. I AM a child of a most High Holy God. I carry the cellular credentials of a prodigal birthright. I have made a pact, a commitment, a promise to serve therefore my duty to be part of the solution and not the problem is essential. I once again recalled that we all have the capability to “plug” in, to connect at anytime and stay aligned. IT IS A CHOICE. For those of us who practice maintaining an advanced state of consciousness our reward is an existence filled with joy, abundance, self worth and the valuing of others.

The aim is to become free of judgement. No more trifling over who is right or wrong. The acceptance that we are all different, all learning to maneuver in this life each in their own unique way. I embraced these past experiences that I perceived as negative to be actual life lessons which served to make me a much more resilient, much more empowered unique being. I may have fallen short of living in my highest good and the highest good of all for a short span BUT there is the beauty. The beauty that it was only for a little time, not like the era from long ago where I would keep myself blind and bound for decades. After the many years of holistic living one of the many gifts I have received is that the recollection of who I truly am, of remembering the self and the source from where I sprouted is just a thought away.

(A letter I wrote to my higher self many years back when embarking on the road to recovery which i then modified for friends when asked for guidance.)

In recovery there is always a tug and pull. I understand you want to get better but there is always a resistance whether conscious or unconscious that sabotages our efforts. A real conflict within the ego when it comes to having to switch up anything in our lives that we are so familiar with, no matter how detrimental to us.

There will come a time when, as Wayne Dyer states, “excuses be gone.” I am not saying that you have not attempted sincere efforts simply analyzing the data of the frequent times you have tried to quit then “something” happens and it doesn’t pan out.

Quitting is hard, asking and humbling for the help even harder. You want it bad enough it will happen. Right now you’re tired and just wanna rest, i get it, been there several times myself till it “clicked” or should i say, my fiance wasn’t having my excuses anymore, my parents were at wits end, my friends saw straight through my bullshit and all my therapists and spiritual advisors were telling me to stop wasting their time and mine and just fly right.

I was so stuck in victim mode. Their words were hard to hear just wanted to knock em all out for calling me on the carpet but i eventually surrendered and realized i had to quit, quit it all. No where left to hide hell even the hard core druggies had had it with me. Either i was going to surrender to being an addict and quit talking bout wanting to get better or i was gonna get better and quit talking bout the woes of being an abuser.

I had enough tough love spiritual teachers put before my path that made it impossible to run drag on them. When you’re ready it happens and only then. Realizing i was almost in my mid 30′s also did it for me. I remember all too well taking a hit and blowing out the smoke saying “man i sure as hell aint gonna be doing this s— when i’m in my 40′s” laughing hysterically on the floor at the thought but with much fear in my heart. I’m pretty sure i made a pact with myself right there and then, then shortly thereafter WHALLAH shift happened!

At the very least, i can not encourage you enough to journal. Get a good book like Louise Hay, Love Yourself, Heal Your Life work your way through it answering the probing questions. It helps us to see and acknowledge the vicious cycle we’re in. We do good for awhile and then slip back in. The only way out is to reach out, ask for the help, be willing to receive it and commit to being steadfast about it.

I just worry that so much time is passing by. So many years have gone by and i want nothing but the best for you. For you to have true happiness, be pain and worry free with a good partner by your side, enjoying this journey with your family and friends. YOU DESERVE IT! Life, on this side of the fence, is fantastic.

Look at how many have chosen it and can testify to how truly worth it it has been. How worth it it has been to give the drudgery up. Within the first 3mths of true effort everything shifts for the better and then it just gets easier…. .

For further information on me and my services visit
http://www.freethelightwithin.com
http://www.meetup.com/Louise-Hay
http://www.healyourlifeworkshops.com/
4546 El Camino Real, Suite 246
Los Altos, Ca 94022
650-804-9816

I was not always such a disciplined being. The fact of the matter was that I lived life rather recklessly. I relished in chaos and drama though I told myself otherwise. I spent endless nights tearfully wallowing in why “this” was all happening “to” me. After many years of personal development, spiritual pursuits and good ole psychotherapy, it was brought to light that I, indeed, was keeping myself in bondage. There was really no one else to blame for all the mishaps occurring in my life. That was not an easy pill to swallow but, in time, and with devoted practice I learned to accept and own this universal truth, this wisdom. The poor choices I had made had granted me the dense life I had been living. I write this blog in hopes that it will encourage others who deem themselves victims to their circumstances that they have much more power over their situations than they think. By sharing what worked for me perhaps others will discover their own personal freedom. The modalities that were most beneficial in my healing and awakening to my personal power were spiritual counseling and body energy medicine.

Holistic teachers revealed that I held the key to releasing the fear that kept me bound for years. The fear of truly living to my highest potential. The fear of having to be wholly accountable for all my actions. The fear of relinquishing the identity that I had created and become rather attached to, better said, addicted to, for so long. I spent many years in traditional therapy but it was when I sought counsel with healers that my progress took a quantum leap. I was able to go deeper faster. I was able to look at childhood haunts and stay there, to just be with those painful memories rather than reeling in my head exacerbating over and over how upset and betrayed I felt. I was no longer giving power to those negative emotions that took on a life of their own. I got out of the vicious cycle called self pity. My mentors guided me into my body, into my psyche and into a whole new way of understanding the mind, body, soul connection. In order to heal, all three should be addressed. This is my belief and what has proven time and again to work tremendously for me and for my clients.

Reiki has been another exceptional tool. It is the universal life force energy that promotes and activates balance, wholeness and consciousness. From the moment I received it, I knew it was going to play a vital role in my journey to self worth. This form of body energy healing put me in a state much like the one I experienced when undergoing talk therapy with spiritual teachers. It allowed me to be still and go within. With each treatment it became easier to forgive myself and those I perceived as my past tormentors. I no longer desired to run from the fire but rather gathered the strength to face and overcome my personal demons.

For further information on me and my services visit
www.freethelightwithin.com
4546 El Camino Real, Suite 246
Los Altos, Ca 94022
650-804-9816